During the first 6 years of our lives, our programming is being set. Psychologically, this programming will determine how each of us deals with life, our level of confidence and how we define what love looks and feels like.
The relationship with our parents or caretakers is the single most important connection we establish, as this understanding becomes our own personal definition of love. Whether the home is filled with tremendous love or lack thereof, even the happiest households may rear children who harbour feelings of pain and rejection.
As you grow and become an adult, the inner child stays with you compartmentalized into your psyche holding the pain, rejection and programming experienced in your youngest years.
Until these emotional wounds are healed, they will continue to manifest outwardly and can create all sorts of problems.
For example, you may find that you continually live the same scenarios in life, such as finding partners who mirror your original household upbringing yet, are not overall beneficial relationships in terms of our health and wellness.
When we can bring these wounds front and center and incorporate them into our conscious awareness, we can heal. But until we do this, they will continue to live as a “box in our mind”. The inner child psyche has been stifled but desperately needs to be healed.
1. Accept the Past
It is common in hurtful situations to try to avoid the pain and stifle the memories. But by stifling the memories, they are bound to manifest negatively in other aspects of our lives. By accepting our pain and bringing our memories forward into conscious awareness, they can be healed.
We may not remember the events that took place in our earliest years, but we never forget our feelings. Acceptance of the past is the first step to healing.
“The past cannot be changed, edited or erased it can only be accepted”
2. Dissect the Parental Relationship
This doesn’t mean pointing fingers or assessing blame to your parents. It means empathizing and practice forgiveness. Know that your parents may also be broken children who did not heal properly.
Your childhood could be a reflection of their own childhood. They may have vowed to do better than their parents did but unless they were able to heal themselves, the cycle from generation to generation continues on.
“We may not be able to change the past, but we can change our perception of it. “
3. Bridge the Connection
Meditation is one of the most effective ways to connect with and heal your inner child. Meditation will allow you to clearly hear, feel and understand your subtle self.
Quiet your ego, sit in the stillness. This meditation is for healing and you have a goal in mind. To shine a light on your inner child and allow them to find their voice. To open the box of your past and give it comfort. Listening without judgement. Consoling and loving this child and setting him free.
By creating a safe place in your mind for your inner child, you are building a bridge to connect the adult you and the child in you.
What you are looking for specific scenarios and happenings that have caused your inner child to be hurt. Your inner-child needs you so much and has so much to say.
Once this connection has been made, you may be very surprised by what your mind was hiding from you. Memories can surface that you may not even believe were yours.
Speak to your inner child and let him know that the adult you will now take care of the child. Let the child know it is time to let go of the past, and everything will be ok. We are now healed, we choose to forgive and we choose to no longer carry the hurt of this any longer. Give your inner child a warm hug.
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