Self-love is a radical act. Itโs flipping the bird to those who told you youโre not good enough. Itโs saying โfuck youโ to anyone who ever made you feel small. Self-love is the greatest middle finger of all time, and itโs available to each and every one of us. So give yourself permission to love yourself fiercely, completely, and without apology.
A Guide to Radical Self Love
Most of us have been raised to believe that self-love is selfish. Weโre taught that we should put others first and that we should be humble. But what if self-love is actually the key to a happy and fulfilling life?
Self-love is not about being narcissistic or self-absorbed.
Itโs about giving yourself the same love, care, and attention you would give to someone else. Itโs about being kind, forgiving, and accepting yourself for who you are.
When you love yourself, you allow yourself to be happy. You accept your imperfections and make peace with your past. You no longer compare yourself to others or strive for perfection. Instead, you focus on your own happiness and growth.
Too often, we allow our past to dictate our future. We hold onto the hurt and the pain, letting it fester until it turns into something toxic. And then we wonder why our relationships are always falling apart. The truth is until you learn to love yourself, you will be toxic to everyone that comes into your life.
The level of love you have for yourself sets the bar for everyone and everything else. If you donโt believe you deserve happiness, then you never will. But if you can learn to accept yourself, flaws and all, then you open up the possibility for real, lasting love. So take some time to heal yourself. Learn to love yourself unconditionally. Only then will you be able to let down your guard and let true happiness in.
Start small, but start somewhere. The journey to self-love is one that will last a lifetime, but itโs worth it. Because when you love yourself, everything else falls into place.
